tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-69769460166172071402024-03-12T18:45:06.311-07:00Growth & Insightby M. Brett Debney, MS, EdS, LPC, NCCM. Brett Debney, MS, EdS, LPC, NCChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00840229897036874894noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6976946016617207140.post-89928454937904885042015-10-15T22:50:00.000-07:002015-10-15T23:27:03.251-07:00Vol 2, Oct 2015 - Body and Soul<div style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: .5em;">
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<span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Welcome to the second issue of </span><em style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><a href="http://brettdebneylpc.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Growth & Insight</a>.</em><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> In the past month, my <a href="https://secure.scheduleonce.com/BrettDebneyLPC" target="_blank">online scheduling service</a> seems to be up and running, both for current clients and for prospective clients, and I am finding myself obsessed with <a href="https://www.pinterest.com/brettdebneylpc/" target="_blank">Pinterest</a> ... what a great way to organize bookmarks and find new cute kitten pins!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">We, as a country and as a culture, are obsessed with how we look, and the parameters we have created for what is considered beautiful are quite limited. Is it any wonder that so many people resort to extreme measures in their efforts to meet these beauty ideals? Additionally, familial and social messages contribute to how we see ourselves.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Eating Disorders rank among the most serious public health concerns in the United States and have the highest mortality rate of any mental illness.</span><span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> (<a data-mce-href="http://www.brettdebneylpc.com/relationships" href="http://www.brettdebneylpc.com/eating-disorders" style="color: #777777; transition: all 0.3s ease-in-out;" target="_blank">more ...</a>)</span><br />
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<strong><span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Characteristics of Eating Disorders</span></strong></div>
<span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Eating disorders have everything to do with food, and nothing at all to do with food. They have everything to do with the number on the scale, and nothing to do with that number. They have everything to do with what is perceived in the mirror, and nothing to do with it. Eating disorders are fraught with contradictions that, on the outside, make no sense, but are matters of life and death, both literally and metaphorically, to the individuals experiencing them.</span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i> </i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>I know that these distinctions don't make sense. But they hold sway anyway. These definitions, these restrictions - they provide a purpose for me. They give me a sense of strength. They give me the sense that I am in charge. They provide me with assurance that I know exactly what is and isn't going in and out of my body. To me, this is power. And, more importantly, this is safety.</i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">(</span><a href="http://www.brettdebneylpc.com/eating-disorders#Characteristics" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;" target="_blank">more ...</a><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The risks of eating disorders include damage to the gastrointestinal system such as esophageal and gastric ruptures, hair loss, kidney failure, liver problems, and death. Eating disorders have the highest mortality rate of any mental illness. </span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">(</span><a href="http://www.brettdebneylpc.com/eating-disorders#Risks" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;" target="_blank">more...</a><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Approaches to treating eating disorders include externalizing the eating disorder, pursuing harm reduction, and involving a dedicated treatment team.</span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> (</span><a href="http://www.brettdebneylpc.com/eating-disorders#Approach" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;" target="_blank">more...</a><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><strong>4 Morning Back Stretches to do in Bed</strong> - I am not a morning person. To help me transition from horizontal sleepy-land to vertical awake person, I do these 4 stretches gently and slowly, in succession (it takes me 5-10 minutes, depending on how long I hold each stretch). It ends on hands and knees, and from that point it's not so much of a chore to get myself the rest of the way out of bed. Easy peasy!</span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> (</span><a data-mce-href="http://chappelltherapy.com/3-ways-to-build-relationship-trust/" href="https://www.pinterest.com/brettdebneylpc/morning-back-stretches-in-bed/" style="color: #777777; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; transition: all 0.3s ease-in-out;" target="_blank">more ...</a><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">)</span></div>
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M. Brett Debney, MS, EdS, LPC, NCChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00840229897036874894noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6976946016617207140.post-24998378989577315542015-09-15T11:00:00.000-07:002015-09-15T19:50:32.989-07:00Vol 1, Sept 2015 - Relationships<div style="color: #333333; font-family: 'Open Sans', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: .5em;">
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<span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Welcome to the first issue of my newsletter blog, </span><em style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><a href="http://brettdebneylpc.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Growth & Insight</a></em><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">. I am excited to be launching my new digital presence, and this newsletter blog is part of that endeavor. I have also recently updated my </span><a data-mce-href="http://www.brettdebneylpc.com/" href="http://www.brettdebneylpc.com/" style="color: #777777; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; transition: all 0.3s ease-in-out;" target="_blank">website</a><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">, created a </span><a data-mce-href="https://www.pinterest.com/brettdebneylpc/" href="https://www.pinterest.com/brettdebneylpc/" style="color: #777777; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; transition: all 0.3s ease-in-out;" target="_blank">Pinterest</a><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> site, and added a </span><a data-mce-href="https://www.facebook.com/brettdebneylpc" href="https://www.facebook.com/brettdebneylpc" style="color: #777777; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; transition: all 0.3s ease-in-out;" target="_blank">Business Facebook</a><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> page as well as a </span><a data-mce-href="https://plus.google.com/+MBrettDebneyMSEdSNCCLPCGreensboro/about" href="https://plus.google.com/+MBrettDebneyMSEdSNCCLPCGreensboro/about" style="color: #777777; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; transition: all 0.3s ease-in-out;" target="_blank">Business Google+</a><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> page. Additionally, I am test-driving an </span><a data-mce-href="https://secure.scheduleonce.com/BrettDebneyLPC" href="https://secure.scheduleonce.com/BrettDebneyLPC" style="color: #777777; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; transition: all 0.3s ease-in-out;" target="_blank">online scheduling service</a><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">. It's all pretty crazy and confusing, but it's awesome and I'm having a blast.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">In this issue, I am highlighting the topic of relationships. </span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Below you will find excerpts from the </span><a data-mce-href="http://www.brettdebneylpc.com/relationships" href="http://www.brettdebneylpc.com/relationships" style="color: #777777; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; transition: all 0.3s ease-in-out;" target="_blank">article</a><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> I have written for my website about my approach to relationship counseling. I have also included in this newsletter a couple of links that I have pinned to my </span><a data-mce-href="https://www.pinterest.com/brettdebneylpc/relationships/" href="https://www.pinterest.com/brettdebneylpc/relationships/" style="color: #777777; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; transition: all 0.3s ease-in-out;" target="_blank">Pinterest</a><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> page.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">For couples counseling to work, both parties need to be willing to do whatever it takes. So if you already have a foot out the door, I am unlikely to be able to help you. Couples counseling is not something that works just by going through the motions; for it to work, both parties need to be willing to do whatever it takes. (<a href="http://www.brettdebneylpc.com/relationships#Whatever" target="_blank">more ...</a>)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">When I am working with a couple, I view the relationship itself as my client, rather than any particular individual. I see the relationship as a plant, and each member of the relationship is responsible for the care they are or are not providing to it. (</span><a href="http://www.brettdebneylpc.com/relationships#Grow" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;" target="_blank">more...</a><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">)</span></div>
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<strong><span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Infidelity and Betrayal</span></strong></div>
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I define infidelity very broadly as anything that is siphoning away energy that should be put into the primary relationship. These activities could involve addictions such as gambling, chemicals, or work. It can involve sexual infidelity, but also emotional infidelity and even cyber-infidelity through texting, chat rooms, and pornography. </span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">(</span><a href="http://www.brettdebneylpc.com/relationships#Betrayal" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;" target="_blank">more ...</a><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><strong style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: .5em; margin-right: .5em;"><img alt="Earning Trust" class="alignleft" data-mce-src="http://imageprocessor.websimages.com/width/248/crop/0,0,248x184/farm5.static.flickr.com/4142/4816852799_612570e491_b.jpg" src="http://imageprocessor.websimages.com/width/248/crop/0,0,248x184/farm5.static.flickr.com/4142/4816852799_612570e491_b.jpg" height="158" style="display: inline; float: left; height: auto; margin-bottom: 0.75em !important; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: .5em !important; margin-top: 0.75em !important; max-width: 100%;" title="Earning Trust" width="213" /></strong><strong>Earning Trust</strong> - How is trust earned back? As I recall Dr. Phil saying once, “You can’t talk your way out of something you behaved yourself into.” What does this mean? It means talk is cheap. You can promise a hundred times over that you’ll never do it again, but your partner will not begin to trust you again until they see a change. (<a href="http://www.brettdebneylpc.com/relationships#Earning" target="_blank">more ...</a>)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Yes, the partner who broke trust must earn it back. But the betrayed partner must make room for that possibility to happen. (<a href="http://www.brettdebneylpc.com/relationships#Giving" target="_blank">more ...</a>)</span></div>
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<strong><span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">On the Internet</span></strong></div>
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Below you will see some online articles I thought might be of interest to my clients. You can find more of these articles on my <a data-mce-href="https://www.pinterest.com/brettdebneylpc/relationships/" href="https://www.pinterest.com/brettdebneylpc/relationships/" style="color: #777777; transition: all 0.3s ease-in-out;" target="_blank">Pinterest </a>page!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><a data-mce-href="https://brettdebneylpc.files.wordpress.com/2015/09/3-steps-relationship-trust-2.png" href="https://brettdebneylpc.files.wordpress.com/2015/09/3-steps-relationship-trust-2.png" style="clear: left; color: #777777; float: left; margin-bottom: .5em; margin-right: .5em; transition: all 0.3s ease-in-out;"><img alt="3 Steps to Rebuild Relationship Trust" class="size-medium wp-image-14 alignleft" data-mce-src="https://brettdebneylpc.files.wordpress.com/2015/09/3-steps-relationship-trust-2.png?w=300" height="174" src="https://brettdebneylpc.files.wordpress.com/2015/09/3-steps-relationship-trust-2.png?w=300" style="display: inline; float: left; height: auto; margin-bottom: 0.75em !important; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: .5em !important; margin-top: 0.75em !important; max-width: 100%;" title="3 Steps to Rebuild Relationship Trust" width="300" /></a><strong>3 Steps to Rebuild Relationship Trust</strong> - Merriam Webster defines trust as “assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something “. Essentially, trust is earned feeling of security. Within relationships, trust is created through experiencing a partner as someone you can continually rely and depend upon. If you want to build trust in your relationship, focus on your actions (not words) and be consistent with the following steps:</span><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> (</span><a data-mce-href="http://chappelltherapy.com/3-ways-to-build-relationship-trust/" href="http://chappelltherapy.com/3-ways-to-build-relationship-trust/" style="color: #777777; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; transition: all 0.3s ease-in-out;" target="_blank">more ...</a><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">)</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><strong>24 Real-Life Habits Of Actual Couples</strong> - When it comes to relationship advice, sometimes it’s more effective to see what’s working for others than seek out so called ‘relationship experts’. So when one person asked how he could improve his relationship on this Reddit page, not only did he get a lot of responses, but they were actually real life things that the people sharing them were actually doing in their own relationships. (<a data-mce-href="http://pulptastic.com/24-real-life-habits-actual-couples/" href="http://pulptastic.com/24-real-life-habits-actual-couples/" style="color: #777777;" target="_blank">more…</a>)</span><br />
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